It's been called lots of things: a poke, shag, boink, lay, quickie, the wham-bam-thank you- ma'am. Yes, the topic today is SEX! Take into consideration my views are from a Christian perspective. So they're bound to be perpendicular from most. But, tag along there may to be something beneficial.
A good male friend of mine is dating this beautiful and talented young woman. He thinks this may be THE ONE! He's been asking those closest to him what they think of her and if there's anything that should stop him from pursuing this relationship further. He's asking these questions because he knows that views can be distorted in relationships. When a relationship is blossoming and it's fresh and new we also tend to make excuses for someone we really like. Views can also be distorted because we tend to put our best foot forward. The dragons don't rear their ugly heads for a while.
Now going back to Sex. Sex is intimate. Perhaps one of the most intimate actions we can experience. It takes a lot of trust to stand stark naked in front of someone, especially the opposite sex. Sheeshhh, it's intimate for the same sex. I still share a special relationship with those girls I skinny dipped with in college.
Sex creates an emotional connection to people. In the same way it can distort your view of someone. This is why if you grew up in a conservative or religious home it was taught that sex was specifically designed inside of marriage. Sex can be defined as a physical act, but, it is just as much emotional as it is physical.
When God says sex is only meant for married couples I don't think he said it is a legalistic sense. Some people make the mistake of sending that message that God will strike you dead if you don't abide the 11th Commandment. I don't think that's the message He was trying to convey. Rather, he is a loving Father looking out for the best interest of his children and if sex is suppose to be such an intimate and bonding experience it can only cause heartache when experienced outside of that relationship.
Now, going back to the friend. They are having sex. It's fun. It's wild. It's freaky. When the dust settles and reality sets in and if the relationship ends there will be two wounded hearts left in it's path.
My advice is wait. It's worth it. If you're really weighing the idea and feel unconvinced by the random venting blonde blogger ask someone honest you respect who is married who waited and then ask someone who didn't. Let them be the judge.
this is insightful. I would not have married my first husband if I had not had sex with him. The marriage was annulled within 4 weeks.
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